Mbabajwe cyane n’umugabo wanjye ushobora kuba anca inyuma bikabije – UMUSEKE
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Mbabajwe cyane n’umugabo wanjye ushobora kuba anca inyuma bikabije

Mbanje kubasuhuza,nimugire amahoro y’Imana.

Nkuko nkunda gusoma ibyo muugezaho nkanakunda kubona ababagana bagisha inama abasomyi bakabuganira mu buryo butandukanyenanye niyemeje kubegera ngo mungire inama,ariko ndabinginze ngo mutambutse ikibazo cyanjye kuko nkeneye inama zabantu batandukanye kandi badafite aho babogamiye bityo nkaba nibwira ko bazingira hatarimo amarangamutima menshi kuko batanzi !! Ni muri urwo rwego mbasabye no kudatangaza amazina yanjye.

 

Ikibazo cyanjye rero giteye gitya : Ndi umunyarwandakazi w’imyaka 32,nkaba mfite umugabo tumaranye imyaka 7 tubana dufitanye abana babiri. Umugabo wanjye afite imyaka 48,andusha 16,nawe numunyarwanda ariko twavukiye kandi dukurira mu bihugu bitandukanye,njye muri Uganda we muri Kenya.

Nubwo yabaga muri Kenya ariko yari afite umuryango munini muri Uganda aho na barumuna be na bashiki be bajyaga baza gusura bene wabo tumenyana dutyo lulo aho bazaga twari duturanye kandi turi incuti,yarandutaga cyane kandi ntago twakudaga kuvugana byaru gusuhuzanya gusa,ndetse yageze aho ajya kwiga muri Amerika anabayo igihe gito,ahashakira umugore w’umuzungu baza gutandukana batabashije kugira umwana ariko batanduka neza nta mahane.

Nyuma rero yaba umuryango wanjye yaba uwabene wabo w’i Kampala ndetse nuwabo wo muri Kenya twaje kwimukira mu Rwanda ndetse n’umugabo wanjye aza kuhatura anahabona akazi keza ariko gatuma agenda cyane,mu bihugu byinshi.

Nyuma yaje kumenyerana ansaba kumubera umufasha ,turasezerana none tumaze imyaka irindwi tubana. Tujya kubana ariko,twari twubakiye ku kizere,urukundo ,kubwizanya ukuri kuri buri cyose,kuganira kenshi ariko cyane cyane kudacana inyuma. Ninayo condition nari namuhaye nk’umuntu wandutaga cyane,wagenze amahanga menshi, tudahuje uburere neza kandi ukinakora ingendo nyinshi hirya no hino,arabinyemerera ariko ambwirako nanjye ariko ngomba kumera.

Mu gihe cyose tumaze tubana yagiye anyereka urukundo rwinshi,ariko nyine ugasanga hari aho tudahuza neza kubera uburere,imico ,expérience mu buzima,nimyaka turutana,ariko ntibudihungabanye cyane .

Nibwiraga ko nkurikije ukuntu mwitwaraho adashobora kumpemukira mu bury ubwo aribwo bwose,nanjye nkoresha uko nshoboye kose ngo ntamusitaraho,mbese nditanga nkarenza !! Mfite akazi katagize icyo kabaye ariko niwe winjiza kundusha ntanaho duhuriye,kandi akaba ariwe wihaye inshingano zo gukemura buri kibazo cyose,njye nkamwunganira nubwo we aba atabishaka ngo amafaranga yanjye nayanjye njye nyakoresha icyo nshaka we yite kurugo rwe.

Tukibana yari afite téléphone ngendanwa ebyiri ariko imwe atayikoresha ibitse mu kabati ke,agiye muri mission nza kumva ya téléphone isona nyitabye nitabwa numugore ahita anyibwira nsanga muzi nawe amvugisha nkaho arinjye yari ahamagaye ntiyanambaza ngo nyiriyi téléphone arihe .

Nyamara njye sinari nzi no iba muri iyo portable,numvise bimbabaje nibwira ko afite indi no ahamagarwa nabandi bantu akaba adashaka ko menya ko hari abandi bagore bamuhamagara,mbimubajije arambwira ngo sibyiza kumutakariza ikizere tukibana ngo iriya numero yigeze kuyihamagaza uriya muntu ari gutegura ubukwe ngo ubwo niyo mpamvu yari ayifite ngo araza kumwiyama ntagahamagare iwe murugo,ndenzaho ndabyihorera nubwo numvaga harimo akantu.

Nyuma yaho undi mukobwa yajyaga amuhamagara amubaza niba ari bugere kuri office ye ku Sunday kuko tutarabana yajyaga anyuzamo akajyayo kubera akazi kenshi,mubajije uwo ariwe ambwirako ari umwana wiga i Kigali ufite family muri Kenya kandi ngo iyo Family ye yamusabye kujya amukurikirana ngo ni nk’umukobwa we,uwo mukobwa rero yajyaga anyuzamo akanamuhamagara mu masatatu z’ijoro amubwira ibintu bitinihutirwa, rimwe njyana n’umugabo wanjye kuri office ye muri week end uwo mukobwa arahaza, ngeze mu rugo mbwira umugabo ko ntashaka ikururukana ry’uriya mwana kandi ko ntanashaka ihamagara rye mu masaha yigiye imbere kuko mbona nta mpamvu.

Umugabo asa nurakaye arambwira ngo singire ikibazo ngo nta kibazo kiri hagati yabo ngo kuko iyo ashaka kugira ikindi kijya hejuru yo kuba yaramuragijwe n’umuryango we biba byarabaye kera kukona mbere ko tubana bari baziranye,ngo iyo aza kuba amukunda yari kuba yaramurongoye,ariko yemeza ko bitazongera ko agiye kubihagarika byose kuko yahinduye statu kandi umuafsha we akaba atabikunda cyane ko uwo mukobwa yari asigaje amezi make akarangiza agataha.

Hashize igihe turi mu rugo ndi kuruhuka n’umwana numva umugabo arambwiye ngo hari ikintu agiye kugura hafi yo murugo, nyuma yaho sinzi uko naje kureba muri téléphone ye nsanga yohereje uwo mukobwa message amubwira ibintu by’amarenga anamubaza niba yitwaye neza (atajya kureba abandi bahungu) ndetse igihe yari yasohotse yamuhamagaye kuko nuwo mukobwa yari amaze kumuhamagara abonye batari buvugane neza ahitamo gusohoka yitwaje kugura ibintu ,icyo gihe uwo mukobwa yari iwabo muri Kenya.

Mbibajije umugabo kuko numvaga ntashobora kwihanganira kuba yarambeshye ko yahagaritse iryo kururukana aransubiza ngo ntibaherukana kuvugana kuko na wa mukobwa yagiye iwabo kandi nubundi iyo numero yari iyo muri Kenya ariko umugabo ntiyari aziko mbizi nyine ko yatashye. Icyo gihe ararakara cyane arambwira ngo sinkanamurebere muri télélphone no muri ordinateur ngo ubundi ndinda mbona abo yandikira nshakamo iki ?

Ibyo turabyibagirwa birarenga ariko birambabaza,kandi nawe yemera ko noneho ubwo yanatasye ntaho bazongera guhurira. None naje kumenya ko yakomeje kwandikirana nawe ku buryo buhoraho atitaye kuko twamupfaga,ndetse asigaye akoresha ijambo chérie iyo amwandikira nuwo mukobwa akamwita papi.

Anniversaire y’umugabo wanjye yagera umukobwa akamwohereza Email yuzuyemo amagambo utapfa kubwira umuntu uwo ariwe wese. Nyamara nigeze kubaza umugabo nti amakuru ya wa mwana,turi kuganira ku bintu bisanzwe ntanumutima mubi mbifitiyemo arambwira ngo kuva yataha ntiyongeye kumenya amakuru ye ngo abantu ntibanazirikna ngo yabonye atakimukeneye ageze iwabo nawe ahita amwibagirwa.

Kandi mu byukuri nubu tuvugana baracyandikirana umwe yita undi chérie undi papi ariko nyine nabibonye nyuma yaho mubajije akambwira ko atanaheruka amakuru ye. Nuko ndibaza nti kuki yabeshye nuko hari ikibyihishe inyuma,cyane ko nubundi ajya ajya muri kenya baranahahurira kuko uwo mukobwa yausabaga kuza ngo akamwereka ababyeyi be kuko uwari wamumuragije ari se wabo akaba nincuti y’umugabo wanjye.

Suwo gusa kandi nabonye ko aho agiye hose ahamenyanira nabagore cyangwa abakobwa ,bakajya bandikirana nyuma za chérie,sweetheart,love n’ibindi byinshi umugabo ubatse yarakwiye kureka.

Abandi nabo yandikirana nabo ngo biratinze rwose hashize igihe badahura ngo bazakore uko bashobye kose ngo bongere bahure amaso kuyandi,njye nkibaza relations afitanye nabo ariko we akitwaza ngo nubucuti busanzwe ngo kuko ari very open.

Ikindi cyambabaje nuko kuva twabana yahoraga yibuka anniversaire yanjye ndetse niya marriage ariko hashize imyaka ibiri atakibikozwa ariko ikimbabaza nuko biri mu kwezi kumwe na anniversiare y’umugore we batandukanye ntaniminsi myinshi ibitandukanya ariko iy’uwo mugore ntajya ayibagirwa,nabonye yaramwohereje mail yuzuyemo amagambo meza gusa,umugabo wubatse atarakwiye kohereza undi mugore kereka ashaka kuzana igitotsi mu mibanire ye.

Muri téléphone ye harimo number ihora imuhamagara itagira izina kandi nawe arayihamagara kandi bakanoherezanya sms,rimwe rero nasanze iyo numero yamwohereje sms imubaza ngo yiriwe he kuva mu gitondo ?

Ndibaza nti nk’uyu ninde kandi yohereza sms nk’iyi ashingiye kuki? nukuvuga ko amufite ho ububasha,umugabo rero yaketse ko nayisomye nuko agarutse ku mugoroba nsanga yayisibye nizindi correspondances zose bagiranye yazisibye, bituma nibaza ko hari ikibyihishe inyuma,uwo muntu sinzi uwo ariwe ariko kuba yarabisibye nuko hari impamvu.

None ndagirango mungire inama:

1)ndibaza niba nzabimubaza akansobanurira relations ziri hagati ye nabo bantu bose,ariko undi mutima ukambwira ngo nugufuha kwanjye nta kibi yakoze nukuganira nimikino gusa (ku byerekeye abo bagore nabakobwa bose agenda amenyera hiryo no hino aho ajya muri za missions mu bihugu bitandukanye) ariko cyane cyane nuko mba numva atabikora,numva atanca inyuma nkurikje ibyo twasezeranye.

2) undi mutima ukambwira uti ukurikije ibyo mwasezeranye nibyo mwagiye muvuga byose,akarenzaho akirirwa yandikirana nabandi bagore ibintu nkabiriya kubimubwira nuguta igihe cyawe kuko nubundi ntazahinduka,azakubeshya ko yahindutse nkuko yakubeshye mbere ariko ntazahinduka,nkumva nashaka izindi ngamba ,nkitegura nkazatandukana nawe aho kugirngo azanzanire indwara kuko sinamenya ibyo akora aho hose,sinamenya naho ibyo bigambo bigarukira.

3) Ikindi gituma nanga kubimubaza nuko akunda kwihagararaho,adakunda kwemera amakosa ye,nkanga gutera intonganya murugo cyane ko nimbimubaza azambaza aho nabikuye nkaba ngombwa kumumbwira ko narebye muri ordinateur ya ne téléphone ye nabyo bikaba ikindi kibazo.

4) Undi mutima ukambwira uti niyo utabimubwira kuko ukekako aguca inyuma uzamugire inama nka Papa w’abana bawe areke gukina na sentiments z’abagore bari hanze aha kuko ntazi ibyo bintu aho bishobora kugarukira kandi izo sms na mails aba yanditse ntazi uzisoma bishobora no kumugiraho ingaruka ku kazi ke no kuri reputation ye cyane ko bibaye bibi nabana be byaba ffecting .

Ikindi kandi nkumva umugabo ukuze uri hafi kuzuza imyaka 50 yagombye kugira uko yitwara,akanamenya ko niyo byaba ntakihishe inyuma uwo bashakanye atakwishimira ko yirirwa avugana nabandi bagore amagambo nkayo.

Mu gihe ngitegereje inama zanyu nziza kuri iki kintu kinkomereye mbaye mbashimiye

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